Grandchildren Growing Up Way Too Quickly

About a year ago, I introduced my granddaughter to writing for Associated Content to make a little extra money for herself. Each article she wrote, was submitted to me for pre-approval before she sent it in. I have to admit that I was enjoying my position of pointing out ways she could make her article better, improve her punctuation, get ideas for new articles, etc.

In fact, I began to enjoy my advisory role so much that I'm afraid I didn't think she was capable of selling an article to AC without Grandma's expert editing. (I used to teach English, and it must have gone to my head.) I would get more excited when one of her articles was accepted, than I did about my own.

Anyway, this morning when I hopped online and went to the AC website to check my articles and hers to see if anyone had made comments on them, imagine my surprise to see a new article posted without any help from Grandma, on her site.

To my credit, I will say that my first reaction was elation, that she had managed to get another article published, but then, I must confess that my next thought was, "How could she do that without my help?"

Seriously, I am proud that she decided to strike out on her own, and expect to receive an e-mail today letting me know that she has published another article, and this time without help.

Too soon, another grandchild has grown beyond needing me, at least in such a consuming way. Time for grandma to start training her brother to write. Now that will be a real challenge.

Don't you wish sometimes that you could just push a button and freeze life right where it is for a few more years?

Jeanne -

I did understand and appreciate what you said. I think what you expressed was totally natural. You cherished the opportunity you had to give to your grand daughter. As you see that opprotunity going away, there is a sense of loss.

Now, I am no english teacher, so you would red-line my papers like crazy, but I find it challenging to edit papers for my daughters. Sure you want to correct obvious punctuation and grammer mistakes. Ambiguous sentences need to be cleared up. But sometimes I am tempted to re-write sentences just becuase I think I have a better way. I must remember that it is still her paper.

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Hi djbtol, I haven't seen you around for a while.

You are right about the wanting to do it for them. I have to back off on that, too. And, every once in a while, she comes up with some real growth, and I wonder how that happened. Then I realize that I'm not the only influence in her life. She has many, many teachers besides me.

huttriver12's picture

Time does fly...

our eldest of eleven is now 18 yrs old - just seems like yesterday that he learned to walk.

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Wow Huttriver, you must really have your hands full.

4 made me feel like I was running on a treadmill from daylight to dark, and then some. When do you ever have a moment for yourself?

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Yes can get overwhelming...

sometimes, but you wouldn't want otherwise - Xmas Day can be hectic.

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Ok Grandma, Edit this!

The Geminian is sure that you have much more to offer to your family than editing help. Editing help is probably the least valuable skill you could share. Perhaps you could try balancing your ego with your responsibility of helping your children, so as to make your efforts more altruistic. The point of raising children is to get them to the point where they are self reliant and can provide the same traning to the next generation. Generally speaking, the next generation surpasses the previous one at an earlier age and then outpaces them exponentially thereafter, (so it is never "too quickly". If your child has reached your level, then celebrate because it will not be long before they are providing you with help with editing and other more relevant skills.

Edit this!

Are we still "Home Of The Brave?"

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Very well put...

Geminian, I'm pretty sure that my ego, as you put it,

is not something that you could possibly know anything about. I haven't noticed a lot of those in the younger generation surpassing the previous one at ANY age. What gives you the idea that editing help is probably the least valuable skill I could share? From the looks of the writing of this present generation, I would say it is in desperate need of some editing help.

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Oh, ain't that the truth, Jeanne

it seems just like yesterday that I was at the birth of the first one, and now she is 7 years old, and there are 3 more grandchildren. Well done, though teacher. How old is she?

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She is 17, Elly.

The point I was hoping to make was that I felt a bit sad that she no longer needed me. I guess it didn't come across that way to my other commenter. Oh well, as my mother used to say, "Consider the source."

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That's the way I saw it Jeanne

but there you go. I have no doubt you have many other influences as all grand parents do, but I'm sure the writing is a special bond with you and the 17 year old. Well done.

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